Good Touch Bad Touch

Part 1

The key here is two things, 1st knowing what feels good to you and 2nd communicating it to your partner. So ladies do you know what feels good to you? There’s only one way to find out. (Maybe two) EXPLORE YOUR BODY. When it comes to exploring your pleasure palace (yes, it is a palace ladies) you can do it the traditional way by touching yourself or by using toys. If you are a little apprehensive about touching yourself try doing it in the shower or bath 1st. The water helps your hands glide over your body. If you prefer to lie down while exploring yourself try using oils and rub your hands over your body in various ways.

Get to know your body. Close your eyes and feel what he takes pleasure in feeling on your body. Try soft tender touches that just feel good or touches with more pressure that bring about more stimulation and response from your body. When knowing what kind of touches turn you on and at what time, sexual encounters will result in more pleasure for you. This ultimately means more pleasure for him. Although your partner enjoys touching you it is ultimately for you so make every touch worth it!

A little FYI: The clitoris is the only organ made specifically for pleasure and pleasure only. The male’s pleasure part has two purposes but yours only has one and that is to please you, so shouldn’t you give it all the attention that it deserves? (YES!)

To find out more suggestions on how to touch yourself more intimately check back with Pillow Talk in two weeks when I talk about using toys.

Lyrical Seductress

How To Get Him To Do What You Want

I must say in order to get him to do what you want you have to know what you want. If you don’t know and are willing to find out then you are well on your way. But how do you express it to him? As for anything there are rules. 1st rule BE KIND. 2nd rule BE HONEST. No man wants to be ridiculed or criticized, but they do love to be praised and lead in the right direction. Face it no woman wants to keep doing what she doesn’t like, so please be honest with yourself and him as well.
1. Guide his hands/mouth where you want to be touched/kissed. Once he touches /kisses you right let out a soft moan or even whisper a few words of encouragement/ delight.
2. It’s ok to give him directions. We all know men don’t like to ask for directions, so help him out. Remember he is interested in yours because he doesn’t have one of his own. Tell him to the left/ right, faster/slower or even harder/ softer. Yes, you can even say “not so hard baby”. You can make anything sound sexy during sex. Bring some of mother’s advice to the bedroom. “It’s not what you say baby, but how you say it.” Read the mood of your situation. If it’s soft and romantic, yelling “HARDER BABY HARDER” might not work to well. But maybe a whisper will.
3. Play games. Put suggestions of what you would like to do or what you would like for him to do in your clothes, lingerie, hair, behind your ears (just be creative). Let him search until he finds one he wants to try or maybe just try them all.

*No matter how many women he has had, he’s not an expert on pleasing you until you show him how.



Lyrical Seductress